No, you will not be able to avoid hurting, but you will get better at it with time.

No, you will not be able to avoid hurting, but you will get better at it with time. You will learn to hear someone’s disapproval and not immediately internalize it but simply witness it as their experience: one that does not have to touch you, nor sway or force you to react. This is from a book by Brianna Wiest called the Pivot Year and it might sound familiar to you. 

At times, the disapproval of others can feel like a dagger to the heart. Yet, as we mature, we learn to hear dissenting voices without internalizing them. Instead of allowing criticism to define us, we recognize it as merely one perspective among many, understanding that it need not dictate our self-worth.

In the midst of chaos, our nervous system may scream for respite, and our hearts may race with anxiety. However, self-destructive tendencies offer no solace. Instead, we learn to prioritize self-care, recognizing when we're weary and in need of rest. It's an act of self-love to step back, to breathe, and to replenish our spirits before plunging back into the fray.

Self-awareness is key to resilience. We learn to decipher the whispers of our souls, discerning when solitude, connection, or nurturing is required. By tuning into these fundamental needs, we empower ourselves to provide the care and compassion we crave, fostering a sense of inner harmony and balance.

Rejection is a universal experience, yet it need not herald our downfall. Rather than succumbing to the sting of rejection, we rise above it, recognizing that it's merely a detour on the road to self-discovery. With each rejection, we grow stronger, more resilient, and more attuned to our own worth.

In the tapestry of life, hurt threads its way through the fabric of our existence. Yet, through resilience, we transform pain into strength, adversity into opportunity, and setbacks into stepping stones towards growth. As we journey forward, may we embrace the challenges that come our way, knowing that with time, we become better equipped to weather life's storms with grace and fortitude. 

By allowing ourselves to feel the depth of our pain, we cultivate emotional honesty and authenticity. Through this process, we learn to navigate the complexities of our inner landscape with compassion and understanding, recognizing that it's okay to not be okay at times. In embracing our feelings, we honor our truth and pave the way for healing and growth.



It all gets better with time. 

Love 
B

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