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No, you will not be able to avoid hurting, but you will get better at it with time. You will learn to hear someone’s disapproval and not immediately internalize it but simply witness it as their experience: one that does not have to touch you, nor sway or force you to react. This is from a book by Brianna Wiest called the Pivot Year and it might sound familiar to you.  At times, the disapproval of others can feel like a dagger to the heart. Yet, as we mature, we learn to hear dissenting voices without internalizing them. Instead of allowing criticism to define us, we recognize it as merely one perspective among many, understanding that it need not dictate our self-worth. In the midst of chaos, our nervous system may scream for respite, and our hearts may race with anxiety. However, self-destructive tendencies offer no solace. Instead, we learn to prioritize self-care, recognizing when we're weary and in need of rest. It's an act of self-love to step back, to breathe, and to rep...

 Hey there Busy Brain Buddies! In a world where vulnerability is often seen as a weakness, we may find ourselves holding back our true feelings out of fear of judgment or rejection. We bottle up our emotions, burying them deep within ourselves, hoping that somehow, others will magically understand what we're going through.  But the reality is, people aren't mind readers. They can't see into our hearts or decipher our innermost thoughts without us giving them a glimpse. If we want others to understand us, we need to be willing to open up and share our feelings with them.  Expressing our emotions can be scary, especially when we're afraid of how others might react. We worry about being perceived as weak or needy, so we keep our walls up and our feelings locked away. But in doing so, we deny ourselves the opportunity for genuine connection and understanding.  When we suppress our emotions, we not only hinder our own emotional well-being but also create barriers in our r...